8 Keys to Lasting Love

Author: Dr. Linda Miles

By Dr. Linda MilesMy granddaughter, Merritt Miles, at five years old, was the inspiration for, 8 Keys to Lasting Love. While reading her a fairy tale I was very disturbed by what I was about to say to her when I read; "And they lived happily ever after."

So, I took the liberty of changing the ending to, "They began the work of creating a very good marriage." I didn't want Merritt thinking, as so many of my clients had, that marriage was so simple, that it just magically happened and couples lived happily every after.

As a marriage and family therapist for thirty years, I have seen the pain people experience after the honeymoon is over, when they awaken realizing they have married a mere mortal. I hope my granddaughter, as she enters adulthood, will avoid the pitfalls and pain of those who succumb to this "happily ever after" myth.

Stop blaming. Start living. It is our responsibility, and not our partner's, to feel better and to heal. Our partner will be responsible to us, but not for us. So it's useful, instead of blaming our partner, to ask ourselves these two questions, "Why did I draw this person into my life?” and “What is it that I need to learn from this?” Within a good marriage, we grow up.

Avoid the fixer-upper syndrome. We think we can fix our partner and shape them into perfection. Our version of perfection. So many people marry for potential. Never marry potential. Marry for safety, the safety between two people who accept one another faults and all. Make a promise to keep our integrity. Do not hold onto victim hood like a prize. This doesn't allow us to grow. Work on behaviors that make our partner want to change by being kind and loving. Vent our feelings, without being out of control. If we are in a relationship that does not have mutual respect, over time we may need professional help. Preferably, we would seek that help with our partner.

Eliminate attack thoughts. These types of thoughts are incredibly destructive over time. If we attack other people, ourselves and our thoughts, it really interferes with our happiness and peace of mind. Learn to find the joy, even in difficult times. As Mother Theresa once said, "Our best protection is a joyful heart."

Do not hold onto anger. Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to die. Turn attack thoughts into constructive thoughts and actions. Think thoughts that are appreciative of ourselves and our partner. And express those thoughts often. When we build an emotional bank account full of positive thoughts, we have positive emotional currency to counter with when angry times come.

Wake up, without makeup. On soap operas I’ve seen women wake up first thing in the morning with all their makeup on, false eyelashes and all. That is not the real world. What we need to do for a successful marriage is to learn to be more and more real. What we need to do for a successful marriage is learn to feel more and more safe to be who we truly are. Wake up and make up. It is essential that couples learn to repair and heal after every fight. Find solutions. Do not get stuck rehashing the past. Live in the present, and find ways to keep the marriage buoyant and alive. Happy couples learn how to repair differences.

To change our relationship, the place to start is with changing ourselves first. Better to reinvent ourselves, because we are not going to be able to change our partner. Learn to love in a mature way without trying to control or manipulate. C.S. Lewis once said, "To love without control or manipulation is to be surprised by joy." We will truly be surprised by joy when we can live in the moment with our partner. And within ourselves. Copyright 2005 Linda Miles Ph.D

Author, Dr. Linda Miles, is deeply committed to helping individuals and couples achieve rewarding relationships. She is an expert witha doctorate in Counseling Psychology, and hasworked in the mental health field for over thirty years. She has been interviewed extensively on radio, TV, and in magazines. Find more relationship ideas and relaxation techniques on her web site and in the award-winning book she co-authored, The New Marriage: Transcending the Happily-Ever-After Myth, and Train Your Brain: For Successful Relationships, CD. http://www.drlindamiles.com

How to Talk to a Woman

How to Talk to a Woman

Author: Caterina Christakos

Taking a girl out on a date already says a lot. But this whole business is not just about seducing someone. You must gain the confidence and trust of the person sitting at the other end of the table. More than that, you must make her feel good in your presence and even want more. How to do this? Simple! When you're not flirting with her just let her take control for a while.

Always keep in mind that women's favorite subject is themselves. This little "bug" in their software gives men a big advantage in a conversation and that is curiosity. Yet, only few use it because of the misconceptions surrounding curiosity in general. Curiosity may have killed the cat, but when a conversation between a man and a woman is concerned, I don't think it ever hurt anyone. What I'm trying to say is that if she says something that makes you curious... just ask her! This will tell her that you are interested in her person. Nevertheless, watch out for those not so discreet questions that could turn you into a cat and get you killed.

Another thing most men forget is that women, even the prettiest, disregard themselves. If you discovered something about her that you really like make sure she can feel your admiration. This rule applies to anything from the color of her eyes to the way she back-parked her car for example. Still, try to use original ways to make compliments and remember that you'll receive the most "points" for cherishing her intelligence.

Always listen to her when she talks! Sounds too obvious? Maybe, but the key thing is that it counts less if you've been really listening to her as long as she thinks you weren't. Therefore you can use several tricks like saying confirmation phrases ("I see", "yes" etc.) showing that you're following her. Just don't do it so much that she mistakes you for her shrink. Re-telling what she just said is another useful skill as long as you don't abuse it. You simply rephrase what she said and she'll know you got the point. Nevertheless it can be very annoying if you overuse it.

And, as I mentioned earlier, when she makes you curious about something just ask her! This proves you were listening in the first place. The same happens when you make a compliment based on something she just said.

But curiosity can also be used whenever you run out of topics in a conversation. Every woman is curious by nature so all you have to do is to stir her curiosity and forget all about you running out of interesting subjects or her getting bored.

About The Author:

Caterina Christakos is a published author and dating coach.Learn more of what to do and what not to do with women. Go to:http://www.powerdatingexplosion.com

Surprise Your Love

Surprise Your Love

Author: Rick Valens

Has dating unknowingly become just a habit to you? Becoming not as fun and exciting as before, as when the both of you just started going out together? Well, I am not suggesting that there is any problem in your relationship. In fact this is something very common. Along time, as a couple get to know and understand each other better, they naturally enter into a comfort zone with one another. It is within this comfort zone that they begin to share with one another more of their own personal life, building a mutual trust and a stronger bond in the relationship. However, it is also at this time when all the surprises and excitements somehow get lesser and lesser during their dates. Both have got so comfortable with one another that there is basically not the need for them to impress one another as during their initial dates anymore. Sadly, dating has become more of like a routine and habit to them.

To most guys routine dates are actually ok but again, things might not usually be the case for the girls. Hmm? maybe before I go on, just a piece of advice for the guys. Well guys, though the girls might not be complaining but believe me, deep down inside them they are still longing for that surprises. Let us not disappoint them, shall we? And well girls, please do understand that guys are afterall still guys. They are just naturally less insensitive creature, just not that good in expressing themselves. But that doesn't mean that they don't care about you?

Well nevertheless, I believe everyone love surprises and excitement. Life would be so boring without them, don't you agree? There would be nothing to look forward to. The same goes for love. Recall all those sweet moments you had when the both of you just started dating. Wasn't love or perhaps life so fun and exciting then; always looking forward to the next date, wondering what surprises would be there for you?

Using a little imagination; planning little surprises for your love would definitely spice up your love life, going a long way in maintaining the flames of love. I am sure you want an interesting love life, always making your love happy? Remember, when your love is happy, happy you will be.

Hmm? Perhaps a monthly anniversary celebration for a start? A day in each month which both could look forward to an exciting and romantic night together? Oh isn't that lovely? Think about it.

Rick ValensStaff Writer for http://www.loveletterbox.com/,

Love Relationship Discussion Forum

Currently also freelance writer for http://www.ecemetery.org/, Monument of Eternal Memory

Relationship Problem............?

Relationship Problems... Are You Making These 5 Mistakes

Communication is the most challenging, frustrating, and confusing thing most of us will ever do. Ask any person who is raising a teenager, dealing with a demanding boss, or placating crazy customers on a daily basis.

But at the same time, when communication does work, when you really connect and create a new level of compassion and understanding with someone, it can be the most rewarding, heart-opening, and make-your-life-worth-living experience you've ever had.

I was once told that the natural outcome of most communication… sadly… is misunderstanding, and, after twenty years of studying the field, I think this is more fact than fiction.

If you are raising kids, or have gone through a divorce or even just have parents, I probably don't need to remind you that to create the relationship of your dreams you need every possible skill, tip, tool and technique available. I wish someone had taught me about these mistakes years and heartbreaks ago, but…

I have discovered most of the 5 relationship communication mistakes the hard way… by making them. And I didn't just make them once, but over and over and over and… Well, you get the point. Sometimes it can take a while to see what's right in front of you. So, read on. You needn't make the same mistakes I've made.

The first heart-breaking mistake is… Building a Case against somebody by gathering evidence and showing examples. We think that if we just prove our point, show them how smart and right we are and how wrong they are, then they will surely see our wisdom and embrace us in awe of our insight.

"How's that working for you?"... It doesn't work, it never has worked, and it never will work.In reality, building a case against somebody will only make them more distant. When we show the other person how bad, wrong and stupid they are they'll only want to run from us.

So, what's the alternative? At our "Create Relationship Magic" seminars we teach you a four-step method called The Language of Peace a way to speak compassionately and build connections with people instead of building cases against them.This method focuses on relating to the other person's feelings and needs. It's a way to make sure the other person feels connected—feels that they have been heard and are respected for their feelings, thoughts and needs. Only then is it effective to make a request around your own needs that won't be heard as 'case building.'

So, the first question to ask yourself before you start to speak is, "Do I want to build a case against them , or do I want to build a connection with them?" And then your intent, along with the four steps of the Language of Peace, will guide you in building the connection you want.

Avoiding this one mistake is the most important in keeping my relationship with my beloved as close and intimate as it is. I have to ask myself constantly whether I'm l looking to build a case against him to show him how bad, wrong and stupid it is to leave the wet sponge in the bottom of the sink. Or whether I'd rather build a connection with him by thanking him for washing the dishes and contributing to our cozy home.

There are more mistakes beyond the 5 Relationship Communication mistakes that we discuss in our seminars, teleseminars and MP3s, of course. But you will be amazed how much of a difference understanding and avoiding even this first mistake will make in your life. In my next article I'll discuss mistake number 2, 'Story Telling.'Kristin Denton

10 Cute Love Quotes

10 Cute Love Quotes that Make You Smile

Author: Fion Lim

Is your heart bursting forth with love? Want to shout out to the whole world about how sweet your love is? Cute love quotes will help you to express loving thoughts about love, and as well as make you laugh with hilarity.

Whether you've just fallen head over heels in love, at the beginning stage of your relationship, or you just want to bask in the joy of your love, let these cute love quotes reflect your romantic and humorous side.

Let Cute Love Quotes give you something funny to smile about. Share these quotes with your family and friends so that they have something to smile about too.

There's many ways to bring joy and fun to your love relationship. Sending a bouquet of roses with a loving message when your lover is feeling down is romantic. Sending a love poem or writing one yourself is a hugely romantic gesture. Writing a wonderful love letter works also. Using a thesaurus and picking out descriptive words to describe the best sides of your sweetheart work amazingly well too.

Another method is to use cute love quotes in your Valentine's Day cards, emails and messages to bring a certain playful tone into your relationship. Make your girlfriend or boyfriend feel loved and cherished.

Add a dash of romance with these quotes and simply let the warmth of cute love quotes envelope you.

List of 10 Best Cute Love Quotes

1) "Other men have seen angels, But I have seen thee, And thou art enough." - G. Moore

2)"I'm not rushing into being in love. I'm finding fourth grade hard enough." - Regina 'Age 10'

3) "I was nauseous and tingly all over. I was either in love or I had smallpox." - Woody Allen

4) "A kiss is a lovely trick designed by nature to stop speech when words become superfluous." - Ingrid Bergman

5) "I married the first man I ever kissed. When I tell this to my children, they just about throw up." - Barbara Bush

6) "Gravitation can not be held responsible for people falling in love." - Albert Einstein

7) "We don't believe in rheumatism and true love until after the first attack." - Marie E. Eschenbach

8) "Women are made to be loved, not understood." - Oscar Wilde

9) "At the touch of love everyone becomes a poet." - Plato

10) "Love is like an hour glass, with the heart filling up as the brain empties." - Jules Renord

About the Author:Fion Lim writes for Great Inspirational Quotes. For more cute love quotes, please visit Cute Love Quotes.

History Of Valentines' Day

History Of Valentine's day

Learn about how Valentines day came into practice as it is today. The origin of this lovers day goes back to as early as 270 A.D from when the history of this day begins. Just read on and discover the true meaning of this festival.

As early as the fourth century B.C., the Romans engaged in an annual young man's rite to passage to the God Lupercus. The names of the teenage women were placed in a box and drawn at random by adolescent men; thus, a man was assigned a woman companion for the duration of the year, after which another lottery was staged. After eight hundred years of this cruel practice, the early church fathers sought to end this practice... They found an answer in Valentine, a bishop who had been martyred some two hundred years earlier.

According to church tradition St. Valentine was a priest near Rome in about the year 270 A.D. At that time the Roman Emperor Claudius-II who had issued an edict forbidding marriage.
This was around when the heyday of Roman empire had almost come to an end. Lack of quality administrators led to frequent civil strife. Learning declined, taxation increased, and trade slumped to a low, precarious level. And the Gauls, Slavs, Huns, Turks and Mongolians from Northern Europe and Asian increased their pressure on the empire's boundaries. The empire was grown too large to be shielded from external aggression and internal chaos with existing forces. Thus more of capable men were required to be recruited as soldiers and officers. When Claudius became the emperor, he felt that married men were more emotionally attached to their families, and thus, will not make good soldiers. So to assure quality soldiers, he banned marriage.

Valentine, a bishop , seeing the trauma of young lovers, met them in a secret place, and joined them in the sacrament of matrimony. Claudius learned of this "friend of lovers," and had him arrested. The emperor, impressed with the young priest's dignity and conviction, attempted to convert him to the roman gods, to save him from certain execution. Valentine refused to recognize Roman Gods and even attempted to convert the emperor, knowing the consequences fully.
On February 24, 270, Valentine was executed.

While Valentine was in prison awaiting his fate, he came in contact with his jailor, Asterius. The jailor had a blind daughter. Asterius requested him to heal his daughter. Through his faith he miraculously restored the sight of Asterius' daughter. Just before his execution, he asked for a pen and paper from his jailor, and signed a farewell message to her "From Your Valentine," a phrase that lived ever after.


Valentine thus become a Patron Saint, and spiritual overseer of an annual festival. The festival involved young Romans offering women they admired, and wished to court, handwritten greetings of affection on February 14. The greeting cards acquired St.Valentine's name.

The Valentine's Day card spread with Christianity, and is now celebrated all over the world. One of the earliest card was sent in 1415 by Charles, duke of Orleans, to his wife while he was a prisoner in the Tower of London. The card is now preserved in the British Museum.

Romantic Love Notes # 3

COLLECTION OF ROMANTIC LOVE NOTES # 3

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 45

If I get takot, would you hawak me tight? If I gawa something mali, would you make it right? If I build an apoy, would you bantay the flame? If I sabi I miss u, would you ramdam the same?

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 46

Do you take me to be your lawfully wedded text mate, in sickness or in health, through metering or not, till low bat do us part?

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 47

Someone once asked me, "Have you ever fallen in love?" Then I answered, "Of course, once." Then they asked me another question: "Did it hurt?" I thought of you and told them "Yes, very much".

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 48

You must be a thief coz you stole my heart. You must be tired coz you're always running through my mind. And maybe I'm a bad shooter coz I keep missing you.

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 49

If someone would ask me what a beautiful life means, I would lean my head on your shoulder and hold you close to me and answer with a smile: "Like this!"

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 50

Life may sometimes be a rough road to walk on where everything seems wrong. But don't give up. Just go on coz when you think you're all alone, look back and you'll find me walking along.

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 51

True love is hard to find, special one, one of a kind. I know because it appeared to me on a strange day I met you.

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 52

I've been wondering why you're not texting... Multiple Choice: a. busy b. dedma c. tired d. thrifty e. want me to miss you.

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 53

While you gave her flowers, you gave me thorns. While all she did was smile, all I did is mourn. While she was so happy, I felt so blue. Because while you loved her, I was loving you.

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 54

An angel asked me a reason why I care for you so much. I told her I care for you so much coz there's no reason not to.

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 55

If love is a disease then I'm very ill. But I would not want medicine and won't take any pill. I would instead suffer this illness and be bedridden with joy of knowing you.

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 56

I used to think that the world is so unfair, that it gave me so many reasons to hate it. But now, how can I hate such a wonderful world that gave me you?

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 57

Can I say I love you today? If not, can I ask you again tomorrow? And the day after tomorrow? And the day after that? Coz I'll be loving you every single day of my life.

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 58

You greeted me hi, I didn't reply. You gave me a sweet smile, I responded with a sigh. You showed me your love, you received a shrug. But when you bid goodbye I began to cry.

Romantic Love Notes # 2

COLLECTION OF ROMANTIC LOVE NOTES # 2

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 23

If you're feeling lonely and you think there is
nobody there to love, support, listen or show they
care, just save this message and every time you
realize it, it will remind you that a part of me is
always there with you.

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 24

Roses are red, violets are blue. I am waiting to hear
from a cute guy like you.

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 25

Do you know that men and women are angels created
with only one wing? And they need to embrace each
other to be able to fly... Hope you can find your
angel whom you can fly with forever.

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 26

If I get takot, would you hawak me tight? If I gawa
something mali, would you make it right? If I build an
apoy, would you bantay the flame? If I sabi I miss u,
would you ramdam the same?

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 27

Hatred infects the mind; love dissolves it. You
dissolve my mind.

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 28

Don't say you love me unless you really mean it cause
I might do something crazy like believe it.

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 29

I'm sorry to be smiling every time you're near. I'm
sorry my eyes twinkle whenever you're here. I'm sorry
that cupid has made his hit. I'm sorry I love you, I
can't help it.

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 30

Text me when you are sad, text me when you need
someone to listen to and you can't find anyone who
will. I don't care if I'm your last option, I just
don't want you to cry alone.

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 31

If love can be avoided simply by closing our eyes, I
wouldn't blink at all for I don't want to let a second
pass having fallen out of love with you.

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 32

I wish one day you will miss me terribly that no
matter how hard you look for me, you won't find me.
Why? Because, I want you to miss me the way I'm
missing you right now.

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 33

If I could be any letter in the alphabet, I'd choose
"V" so I can be next to "U"; if you could be any note,
I wish you're "RE" so your always beside "ME"!

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 34

Every part of me wants you, maybe because I was made
just for you!

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 35

When you love someone, draw a circle around their
name instead of a heart coz hearts can be broken but
circles never end.

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 36

If you were a wound inside my heart, I'd rather leave
it there with all the pain locked inside than leave it
without a trace of you.

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 37

They can recycle paper till it's as good as new,
reproduce cans and jars and old bottles too, but they
can never recycle another person as wonderful as you.

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 38

I hate when you smile at me because you make me crazy
about you. I hate when you talk to me because you make
me run out of words. I hate you when I see you because
you make me love you more.

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 39

What good is beauty without brains, looks without
charm, money without happiness, a smile without
feelings, a life without you?

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 40

Someone asked what makes people happy. Some said
wealth and some said fame. I was thinking about this
when my cell phone beeped and received a text from
you. Then, I smiled and said: "This makes me happy."

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 41

It was a simple crush, done and over with, then you
looked at me.

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 42

Love is something special, a treasure I want to
find... To others, love is blind but for me, its not
true, coz when I fell in love...I saw you.

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 43

I'll lend you my shoulder for you to cry on, my ears
to listen to, my hand for you to hold, my feet to walk
with you, but I can't lend you my heart coz it already
belongs to you.

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 44

Why do birds fall from the sky every time you walk
by? Maybe because like me they want to be near you!

52 Free Things to Do with Your Partner on Date Night

52 Free Things to Do with Your Partner on Date Night

by: Kim Olver

One of the things that works to keep relationships alive is spending quality time with each other. In this day of the information age, it is becoming increasingly difficult to carve out the necessary time to nurture our relationships. What with long work hours, helping kids with their homework, transporting them around to their extracurricular activities, getting dinner, cleaning up and going through the bedtime routine, what time is left?

Unless you orchestrate the time for your relationship, other less important things will crowd in and take what precious little time you do have. Pick a night that will be “date night” with your partner and make a game out of being as creative as you can be. Try to see how many things you can do without spending money.

To get you started, I’ve come up with some suggestions to help you for the next year. What follows are 52 ideas for how to spend creative time together without spending money. Feel free to add or modify any of the items on the list to suit your particular relationship and circumstances.

WINTER

1. Take a drive to look at the Christmas decorations.

2. Play cards---perhaps strip poker.

3. Watch a movie together.

4. Go outside and have a snowball fight.

5. Get some finger paints and create your own body art with each other as your canvass.

6. Go sleigh riding.

7. Go ice skating.

8. Work out or exercise together.

9. Stage your own improvisation show.

10. Sing to each other.

11. Review or create a photo album or scrapbook of your memories together.

12. Play a board game---perhaps chess, Scrabble or Twister.

13. Go to a book store, get coffee and read for hours.

SPRING

14. Work on a remodeling project together.

15. Plan and complete a yard work project together.

16. Do the spring cleaning together---room by room. When done, reward yourself by making love in the room you’ve cleaned.

17. Put on old clothes and mud wrestle after some drenching rain.

18. Give each other a massage.

19. Play catch---football, baseball, softball or Frisbee.

20. Go to a car dealer and test drive the car of your dreams.

21. Shoot basketball together.

22. Dance together.

23. Take a shower together and wash each other---everywhere.

24. Take a free adult education class together.

25. Go to a mall and have a contest to see which one of you can get the most free samples.

26. Go rollerblading or bike riding.

SUMMER

27. Build a campfire and roast marshmallows.

28. Go swimming or skinny dipping.

29. Give each other a manicure or pedicure.

30. Go somewhere crowded to people watch.

31. Go to a free outdoor event, perhaps a concert.

32. Lie on a blanket outside and watch the clouds or stars.

33. Go on a picnic.

34. Watch a fireworks display.

35. Be creative and engage in sexual role plays. Be anyone you’d like to be for the night who is also exciting for your partner.

36. Sit by the water somewhere.

37. Do a prolonged strip tease for each other.

38. Have a water balloon fight.

39. Sit outside and read poetry to each other.

FALL

40. Go for a drive together.

41. Go window shopping.

42. Incorporate food into your love making---chocolate syrup, whipped cream, fondue, strawberries---anything you and your partner enjoy.

43. Call or write to someone you haven’t had contact with in a while.

44. Cook something together.

45. Spend an evening just talking with each other. Talk about the things you have done, plans you have for the future, important people in your lives or current events.

46. Take a bubble bath together.

47. Go to a free movie or museum.

48. Take a drive and find the potential in old houses and their properties.

49. Create an imaginary story together---either orally or in written form.

50. Take turns being each other’s genie in a bottle by fulfilling your partner’s every wish and fantasy.

51. Play in the fallen leaves.

52. Create an exciting scavenger hunt that ends in your bed.

Now you have 52 suggestions for things to do with your partner for every week of the year divided by season. Certainly you don’t have to follow my suggestions. Feel free to add your own or to repeat your favorites as often as you’d like.

The main point is not to see how kinky you can get. The idea is to keep your relationship alive by making time together a priority. It is important that you find things to do as a couple that you can both enjoy. If you have vastly different interests then you can enter this with the spirit of taking turns and each agree to happily participate in the activity chosen by the one whose turn it is that week.

As long as you make a habit of making your relationship a priority and allocating time each week for rejuvenation of the feelings that attracted you in the first place, then you stand a good chance of staying together for the long haul.

Please don’t let insidious boredom enter into your relationship through the back door. This is what frequently happens when we are busy placing other things ahead of our time for each other. You know what I mean---the job, the kids, our friend in crisis, etc. There will always be a competing interest for the time you’ve set aside for each other.

Other than natural disasters, threat of death or major crises, do not allow your time together to be invaded by any outside forces. Make sure to create opportunities for you to do things together without outside influence. With more than 50% of today’s marriages ending in divorce, make this small investment in the longevity of your relationship. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. What’s stopping you? Start today.

Romantic Love Notes # 1

COLLECTION OF ROMANTIC LOVE NOTES FOR YOUR SWEET HEART # 1

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 1

There are 12 months a year...30 days a month...7 days a week...24 hours a day...60 minutes an hour...but only one like you
in a lifetime.

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 2

There are two reasons why I wake up in the morning: my alarm clock and you.

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 3

Great minds contain ideas, solutions and reasons; scientific minds contain formulas, theories and figures; my mind contains
only you!

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 4

Love can be expressed in many ways. One way I know is to send it across the distance to the person who is reading this.

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 5

If I could change the alphabet, I would put U and I together!

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 6

Minsan caring is better than loving. Minsan tea is better than coffee. Minsan smile is better than laughter. RUZI nobody is
better than you.

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 7

There is night so we can appreciate day, sorrow so we can appreciate joy, evil so we can appreciate good, you so I can
appreciate love.

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 8

You look great today. How did I know? Because you look great everyday.

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 9

What is love? Those who don't like it call it responsibility. Those who play with it call it a game. Those who don't have it
call it a dream. Those who understand it call it destiny. And me, I call it you.

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 10

What is love? It is what makes your cell phone ring every time I send text messages.

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 11

If love can be avoided by simply closing our eyes, then I wouldn't blink at all for I don't want to let a second pass having
fallen out of love with you.

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 12

I used to think that dreams do not come true, but this quickly changed the moment I laid my eyes on you.

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 13

Some people were born with talents. They can do beautiful things with their skills, knowledge and technology. But no one is
as talented as you. You just come near, and there is already beauty.

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 14

A lady is a woman who makes a man behave like a gentleman. You're such a lady to me.

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 15

To forget you is hard to do and to forget me is up to you. Forget me not, forget me never. Forget this text, but not the
sender.

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 16

When situation gets you down, remember there's Someone in Heaven who loves you and watches over you and there's someone on
Earth who cares… I do.

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 17

Cell phones can be irritating sometimes. You always have to reload, recharge every now and then. Messages are delayed. But
there's one thing I love about it. It connects me to you!

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 18

Words begin with ABC. Numbers begin with 123. Music begins with do, re, mi. And friendship begins with you and me!

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 19

Rain and sunshine do not always come together. Night and day never coincide. But you and I, whatever they say, is for me the
perfect match.When I dream, I dream of you...maybe one day, dreams will come true.

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 20

There is an ocean between us. Forests and mountains keep us apart. I may not be superman, but give me a second and I will
fly across countries to send you my love. Have you received it?

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 21

If, out of time, I could pick one moment and keep it shining, always new, of all the days that I have lived, I'd pick the
moment I met you.

ROMANTIC LOVE NOTE # 22

I'm on a mission to get over you, in other words mission impossible.

Romantic Valentine Ideas # 5

ROMANTIC VALENTINE IDEAS # 5

ROMANTIC VALENTINE IDEA # 51

Speak to your partner's family and find out what her favorite book was when she was a little girl. Buy a copy of the book and read it to her in bed.

ROMANTIC VALENTINE IDEA # 52

If you are away on a business trip, document a day in your life for your partner. For example:

'A Day In The Life Of JIPSAN'

6am: Just woke up and thought of you - Wish you were laying next to me. Well, I better get ready for work.
7am: Am on the train. It's crowded; everyone looks like they are half dead. I miss ya heaps.

8.30am: Have just organized my day, it's going to be a busy one.

9.30am: Am in the middle of a really boring meeting. I am trying to concentrate on this months sales figures but I keep thinking of your beautiful eyes.
...

6.30pm: Thank goodness the day is over. I am counting the days until we’re together again.

Send your letter to your partner. This is a wonderful way to tell your partner how often you think about her during the day and to share your life with her in a special way.

ROMANTIC VALENTINE IDEA # 53

Photocopy your hand and fax a copy of it to your partner with a message saying,

"Do ya wanna hold hands?"

ROMANTIC VALENTINE IDEA # 54

Rent a tandem bike and go for a ride with your partner. At the end of your ride have a picnic in the park.

ROMANTIC VALENTINE IDEA # 55

When your partner is sitting at a table or desk, come up behind him or her and give her a back, shoulder and head massage. Finish with a gentle kiss on the cheek.

ROMANTIC VALENTINE IDEA # 56

Buy a book that you and your partner are both interested in reading.

Read one chapter each night in bed with each of you taking turns to read out loud.

This can be a great alternative to television.

ROMANTIC VALENTINE IDEA # 57

Buy a box of chocolates and very carefully open one side of the plastic wrap so that you can gently slide the box out. Open the box and place a love note inside. Then slide the box back into its plastic wrap and reseal it.

ROMANTIC VALENTINE IDEA # 58

Place an ad in the paper on a normal day saying something like:

Dear Amanda,

With you by my side, everyday

feels like Valentines Day.

Thank you for being you.

Love,

JIPSAN

ROMANTIC VALENTINE IDEA # 59

When your partner is having a shower or bath, take her towel and place it in the dryer to make it really warm and then wrap her up in it when she is done.

ROMANTIC VALENTINE IDEA # 60

Next time you order a pizza, ask to have it cut into a heart shape before it is delivered to your home.

Romantic Valentine Ideas # 4

ROMANTIC VALENTINE IDEAS # 4




ROMANTIC VALENTINE IDEA # 41


Buy a tree with your partner and plant it in a special spot. Each year on your anniversary, have a glass of champagne next to your tree and talk about how your love and the tree have grown.





ROMANTIC VALENTINE IDEA # 42


If you shower first in the morning. Steam up the bathroom and write a message such as "Pete Loves Kathy" on the mirror for your partner to read when she uses the bathroom. This also works on car windows when it's cold.





ROMANTIC VALENTINE IDEA # 43


As a special gift, name a Star after your partner. A number of astronomical agencies allow individuals to name stars and you receive formal documentation identifying the star that you have named.





ROMANTIC VALENTINE IDEA # 44


Find a comic strip that relates to something that you and your partner have shared together, for example perhaps you both work in the same office and you find a Dilbert cartoon that relates to the politics at your workplace.


Enlarge the cartoon using a photocopier and use white-out to cover the cartoon text. Type up your own text that relates to you and your partner and paste it in the appropriate places and then photocopy the cartoon again so that it looks like your text was the actual text of the cartoon.


For an added touch, get your customized cartoon laminated before giving it to your partner.





ROMANTIC VALENTINE IDEA # 45


When you and your partner are enjoying a restful time away, organize to wake up early one morning and go to a scenic spot to watch the sun rise.


This may seem difficult but it is something which is definitely worth doing at least once. Seeing a new day being born is something really special to share with your partner.





ROMANTIC VALENTINE IDEA # 46


When you have access to a spa, create a romantic atmosphere by placing some candles around the tub and some rose petals floating on the surface of the water. As your partner enjoys the water, serve champagne and chocolate covered strawberries before joining her.





ROMANTIC VALENTINE IDEA # 47


Create some love coupons that your partner can exchange for romantic favors.
For example you could have a coupon that reads


This coupon entitles the bearer to:

One Foot Massage.

Use by 07/08/2045


Use a date many years in the future if you want to suggest that you and your partner will always be together.





ROMANTIC VALENTINE IDEA # 48


On a warm summers night, organize a backyard picnic. Spread a picnic blanket on the ground and get together some snacks, chocolates and champagne. Lie down on the blanket with your partner and gaze up at the stars together.





ROMANTIC VALENTINE IDEA # 49


Next time it is raining really heavily, go for a walk with your partner. Forget the umbrellas and the raincoats. Run through the streets together, jump in puddles and get totally saturated.


Pick her up, twirl her around and kiss her while the rain falls. Taste the water off her face and hold her close.


When you get back home have a hot shower and then share a warm drink preferably in front of an open fire.





ROMANTIC VALENTINE IDEA # 50


Organize a hot air ballooning trip as a special surprise. Most trips begin with a glass of champagne before you float over the countryside with your partner.

Romantic Valentine Ideas # 3

Romantic Valentine Ideas # 3

ROMANTIC VALENTINE IDEA # 31

When you and your partner are in a shopping center or airport, stop at one of those booths that allow you to take an instant photo and print them out as stickers.
Choose a romantic background and kiss your partner while the photo is being taken.

ROMANTIC VALENTINE IDEA # 32

If your partner has voice mail at work or on her mobile, leave a message saying
"Just wanted to let you know that I'm thinking of you."
She will appreciate this anytime but especially when she is going through a rough period.

ROMANTIC VALENTINE IDEA # 33

Organize a mystery trip for you and your partner. Some travel agents will organize mystery packages where the destination of the trip is kept secret until you are actually on the plane or arrive at the destination.

ROMANTIC VALENTINE IDEA # 34

Buy some rose petals and place them behind the sun visor on the passenger side of your car. Take a post it note and write, "I Love You" on it and stick it to the back of the sun visor. As you are driving to a romantic destination, look at your partner and tell her she has a mark on her cheek. She will pull down the sun visor to use the mirror and be showered in rose petals and see your note.

ROMANTIC VALENTINE IDEA # 35

If your partner is going on a trip, pack a small present into the corner of her suitcase that she will find when she is away.

ROMANTIC VALENTINE IDEA # 36

When you and your partner are having an anniversary, buy two champagne glasses and get them engraved with your names and the date, for example: "Mal and Kate 7 May 2002 "
Go to the restaurant where you have made your reservations and request that when you and your partner arrive that your champagne be served in your special glasses. This will be a great surprise for your partner and a wonderful keepsake for you both.

ROMANTIC VALENTINE IDEA # 37

On a special occasion such as your partner's birthday, buy twenty-four red roses. Arrange to meet her at a specific spot in a shopping mall before going out for dinner. Get to the shopping mall early and position yourself around the corner from your meeting spot. Ask a guy who is walking by whether he would mind helping you out. Give him a rose, point out your partner and ask him to walk up to her and say, "Happy Birthday Meagan" and give her the rose and then walk away. Repeat this with eleven other guys. Choose guys who are not too good looking and choose guys of different ages. A nice touch is to have the last rose delivered by a small child who could even by accompanied by his parents.
After the first twelve flowers have been delivered, approach your partner with the twelve remaining roses.

ROMANTIC VALENTINE IDEA # 38

Always listen for things that your partner reminisces about and jot them down somewhere. For example, perhaps she talks about the ice cream that she had from a particular shop when she was a little girl.
When a special occasion comes along, check your list of things that your partner talks about and try to recreate one of them, for example, visit the shop and buy a tub of ice cream making sure that the name of the shop is on the container.

ROMANTIC VALENTINE IDEA # 39

Create a love montage by collecting some photographs of you and your partner, some ticket stubs of places you have visited and any other small odds and ends that have special meaning to you both.
Take these items and get them professionally framed in a three dimensional montage. Alternatively, buy a frame and create a simple montage yourself.

ROMANTIC VALENTINE IDEA # 40

Buy an ornately carved wooden box which is lined with green or red felt. Find an old fashioned key and place it in the box. Next, get a small gold plaque and have it engraved with the words
"The Key To My "
Heart Fix the plaque to the inside of the top of the box so that it can be read when the box is opened.

Reasons Why I Love You

Reasons Why I Love You !

You know how to touch the softest corner of my heart.

I Love You for no reason.

I can be myself when I am with you.

Your idea of romance is dimlights, softmusic, and just the two of us.

I love the way you bring a smile to my face whenever I see you.

Because you make me feel like,like, like I have never felt before.

I can tell you anything, and you won't be shocked.

Your undying faith is what keeps the flame out of love alive.

You and me together, we can make magic.

We're a perfect match.

I Love You for being true to me.

Thinking of you, fills me with a wonderful feeling.

Your love gives me the feeling, that the best is still ahead.

You never give up on me, and that's what keeps me going.

You are simply irresistible.

Your talketive eyes tell me everything without speaking a single word to me.

I love you because you bring the best out of me.

Your terrific sense of humor.

Everytime I look at you, my heart misses a beat

You're the one who holds the key to my heart.

You always say what I need to hear (You are perfect).

You have taught me the true meaning of love.

I can't get enough of you.

Love is, what you mean to me - and you mean everything.

You are my theme for a dream.

I have had the time of my life and I owe it all to you.

When I look into your eyes, I can see your heart.

Your love for me is a natural anti-depressant.

I love to hear your voice.

You make me feel so strong when I hold your hand.

Your love has helped me to rediscover myself.

Your love is an effective anti-dote to despair.

I love to wake up with you by my side...It makes my days better.

You always make me feel that you are by my side no matter what.

I love that feeling of being secure when you wrap your arms around me.

I love the way you keep your cool when I do something stupid.

Just being with you feels like I can defy the whole world.

You mean the whole world to me.

I like your small gestures that speak volumes about how much you care.

I love the way you treasure the gifts that I gave you.

I love the way you patch up with me after a tumultuous fight.

And, of-course, your intelligence, 'cause you were smart enough to fall in love with me ;-)

And I love you cause you are a part of me, You are mine.

Valentine Love Poems

Valentine Love Poems

Valentine Love Poem # 1

Valentine's Day Love Poems

How Do I Love Thee? Let me count the ways. I love thee to the depth and breadth and height My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight For the ends of Being an ideal Grace. I love thee to the level of everyday's Most quiet need, by sun and candlelight. I love thee freely, as men strive for Right; I love thee purely, as they turn from Praise.
I love thee with the passion put to useIn my old griefs, and with my childhood's faith. I love thee with a love I seemed to lose With my lost saints,--I love thee with the Breath, Smiles, tears, of all my life!--and, if God choose, I shall but love thee better after death.
- Elizabeth Barret Browning -

Valentine Love Poem # 2

Valentine's Day

Valentine's Day is a day of love Where love is as bright as the sun We share kisses, and even a hug With people we call our loved ones Unrequited love is oh! so harsh When the one you love doesn't love you You feel you're left standing in the dark Wishing this reality were untrueWell that's why Valentine's Day is so great It encourages you to show you care It makes you just wanna sayI love you and will always be there I once loved someone in this way And I was encouraged on Valentine's I went up to him, just to say I would like you to be mine

- Candice -

Valentine Love Poem # 3

I miss you terribly this day of love,

Miss you with a wound that stabs and aches. I see the love around me, and it takes So much strength simply just to move. Soon, soon, my love, this waiting will be done.
You and I will have what we desire. On days like this we'll sit beside the fire, Undoing all the pain of days long gone.

Valentine Love Poem # 4

Is it really love?

Is it really love? or is it just a passing feelingam I not convinced? a bit uncertain of the feeling
Is it the way you make me feel? so warm with joy and laughter or could it be the happinessfrom moments spent together
The lasting bliss, the kiss I miss, The sweetest thoughts without a touch The heart that hurts and bears a scar thinking how far away you are
You're on my mind most of the dayAnd at night I go to bed and pray An angel soft and gentle as you Would make my sweetest dreams come true
Thinking about you alone or in class Writing your name on my bathroom window glassWishing you were here To love hold and care Wishing I had you with me To cherish and to stare
Into your soft and beautiful eyes As we both travel to the skies And mingle with the stars above But is it really love?

- Cyril Ajayi -

Valentine Love Poem # 5

Be My Valentine: What Does That Mean?

Be my Valentine: What does that mean? Each of us must walk through life alone, More deeply desolate than we have known, Yearning for a truth we've never seen. Valentines are from beyond that dream, Are like a sunrise on a world of stone. Little on this journey can we own Except as miracles might intervene. No way but through loving might we give The freedom of our being to another. In such a sacrifice we hope to live No longer bound by dreams of flesh and bone,Even as we bind our lives together.

- Nicholas Gordon -

Valentine Love Poem # 6

Words Can Tell What Hearts Divine

Words can tell what hearts divine This most romantic time of year: So will you be my Valentine? I'll be yours if you'll be mineTill golden moon meets midnight drear. For words can tell what hearts divine
When air's perfume and water's wine, And cupids hover at one's ear: So will you be my Valentine?
And do we feelings dare define In phrases adamant and clear? For words can tell what hearts divine,
And souls can step across a lineOn days when angels wait to cheer: So will you be my Valentine?
Ah, love! Let love this one day shineOn fancies lush and passions sheer! For words can tell what hearts divine: So will you be my Valentine?

Valentine Love Poem # 7

Happy Valentines Day

I cant live without you by my side I can talk to you all day long Its with you that I confideYou're the reason for my happy song
My days are never grey With your voice ringing in my ear Its in your heart that I want to stay Because you wipe my every tear
Its with you that I know I can go another day You take me high when I am lowIm sure you are here to stay
You are very special to me I love you in every single wayIf my heart had a lock, you'd have the key I love you so much, Happy Valentine's Day.

- Erin -

Valentine Love Poem # 8

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I woke up in a white room with white lace curtains. Snow covered landscape; I'm in Memphis for certain
Yesterday, it took over three hours just to travel the last twenty miles. But nothing is like my wife's family always being greeted with smiles
I was hoping for a White Christmas. You'd be surprise how simple I am. Be careful what you wish for God may be listening to your plan.
Most of the nation is covered with that dangerous and beautiful thing I am grateful for arriving safely for my wife's happiness is everything.
She wanted to see her family, her father, uncles and aunts. I've kept her in Southwest Texas too long; this trip I most willingly grant.
So, here we are now in a snowy southern wonderland. Waiting for Christmas dinner to come; a present only my wife can understand

- Juan Manuel Perez -

Valentine Love Poem # 9

Wherever I May Go

You're in my thoughts and in my heart Wherever I may go; On Valentine’s Day I’d like to sayI care more than you know.

- Joanna Fuchs -

Valentine Love Poem # 10

Happy Valentine, My Love

Happy Valentine, my love! All my love is yours. Praised be love that brings us home, Pilgrims to these shores. Yearnings here find harborage;Vanities, sly smiles.All that righteous anger rends, Love here reconciles. Even in the darkness whereNo bitterness finds rest, Thoughts of you are like a dawnIntent on happiness. Nor would I have so light a heartExcept that I am blessed!

- Nicholas Gordon -

Valaentine Love Poem # 11

You Are My Heart, My Hope, My Help

You are my heart, my hope, my help,The passion that is me,The whole of which I am a part,My peace, my ecstasy. You are my future, present, past,My ship, my sail, my ocean,The wind that brings me home again,The home for every motion.
You live within me, yet I amWithout you all alone.With you I am full of light;Without you I am stone.
Is this foolish? Yes, perhaps,But also it is true.I think of life as something ICan spend with only you.
Ah, my love! Love longs for suchSweet celebrants as this!Love is a burden and a joy,Slavery and bliss.
This day of love come love with me,Come sing with me my song.Come be my Valentine, and I Will love you my life long, my love, Will love you my life long.

Valentine Love Poem # 12

To Ask You to Be My Valentine

To ask you to be my ValentineI'd have to talk to you,Something that in all this timeI've managed not to do. I'd have to get past "Hi!" somehowTo show you that I care,But the right time is never now, Especially when you're there.
It's as if a wall of fear,Transparent yet profound,Came hurtling up as you come near,Cutting off all sound.
I fear I won't know what to sayAnd strike you as a fool,Or you'll be glad to get away,Polite not to be cruel.
Easier to dream than act,To hope than to find out, So fearful of the force of factI wait in fear-filled doubt.
But now the day of love has come,And I must cross its line,And so I ask you through this poem To be my Valentine.